222: Self Awareness, Assertiveness, and Creating Real Boundaries
In today's fast-paced world, creating and maintaining boundaries in our personal and professional lives has become crucial for our well-being and happiness. Join me, as I delve into the topic of setting boundaries in a tangible and impactful way, sharing personal insights and practical tips to help you navigate this journey towards a more authentic and fulfilling life.
Intro to Setting Boundaries
How do you create better boundaries in your life with your family, friends, loved ones, and even with yourself? This is a question many of us grapple with daily. Setting boundaries is not about being mean; it's about honoring your needs and values. It's about living authentically and prioritizing your happiness above all else.
Figuring out Your Level of Perfectionism and People Pleasing Tendencies
One of the first steps in setting boundaries is understanding your level of perfectionism and people-pleasing tendencies. It's easy to fall into the trap of living your life for others, sacrificing your own happiness in the process. By getting quiet with yourself and being discerning of others' opinions, you can start to differentiate between what serves you and what doesn't.
Making Boundaries Does Not Equal Being Mean
Putting up boundaries can be challenging, especially if you fear being perceived as mean. However, being assertive in your communication and learning to say no are essential skills in setting and maintaining boundaries. Remember, saying no is not selfish; it's a way of respecting your limits and prioritizing your well-being.
Communication is Key
Effective communication is fundamental in setting boundaries. By expressing your needs and limits assertively but kindly, you can ensure that others understand and respect your boundaries. Using "I" statements and being direct in your communication can help establish clear boundaries that benefit both you and those around you.
Self-awareness and Setting Boundaries
Self-awareness plays a significant role in the boundary-setting process. Understanding your limits, values, and what brings you joy is essential for creating boundaries that align with your true self. Pay attention to how certain situations and relationships make you feel and honor those feelings by setting boundaries that support your well-being.
Setting boundaries is a journey of self-discovery and empowerment. It's about learning to trust yourself, make aligned decisions, and prioritize your happiness. Remember, it's not your job to seek approval from others or justify your choices. By setting boundaries that reflect your values and needs, you are taking a powerful step towards living authentically and joyfully.
Happiness happens when you prioritize your well-being and honor your truth. Stay empowered, stay authentic, and let happiness happen when you least expect it.
In the episode, we get into:
0:26 Figuring out your level of perfectionism and people pleasing tendencies
4:34 Making boundaries does not equal being mean
05:57 Adapting to better communication
07:05 Learn how to say no
08:58 Developing self awareness
About Simona Costantini
Connect with Simona
Simona Costantini is the Founder and CEO of Volt Productions, a leading podcast production agency with 30+ weekly shows, many ranking in the top 30-100 in their niches. Simona is a dynamic speaker and podcast host known for delivering actionable insights and value.
She hosts "Happiness Happens" and "As It Relates to Podcasting" and empowers female entrepreneurs in parenting, wellness, and marketing to launch and grow their podcasts. Her mission is to empower creators to make a meaningful impact with their voices, drawing from her 10+ years of marketing and PR experience. When not working, she enjoys life in wine country with her cockapoo, Gus.
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