214: Considering Divorce? These Tips Will Help You with Molly Rubesh

Written By Simona Costantini

Are you going through a divorce? Or maybe you know someone who is. Divorce is a challenging and painful experience that can leave us feeling lost and devastated. But what if I told you that divorce doesn't have to be a sad journey? What if I told you that you have the power to create a bright and authentic life post-divorce? In today's episode with expert Molly Rubesh, we will explore the concept of self-empowerment during divorce and how it can lead to a life full of joy and authenticity.

1. Embracing the Self-Empowerment Piece of Divorce:

Divorce can be a catalyst for personal growth and self-discovery. Molly Rubesh, a divorce coach, shares her journey of empowerment. Molly highlights the importance of recognizing that happiness comes from within and cannot be found in material things. She describes a moment of peace she experiences each night before falling asleep when she envisions her loved ones safe and content. This moment of pure bliss reminds us that happiness is a state of mind that can be cultivated even in the midst of challenging times.

2. The Journey to Self-Healing and Growth:

Molly emphasizes the need for individuals going through divorce to seek professional support, such as therapy or divorce coaching. These professionals can provide guidance and help navigate the complex emotions that arise during this process. Therapy or coaching can offer a safe space to explore and work through feelings of shame, guilt, and anger. Taking the time to heal and understand oneself is essential in overcoming the challenges of divorce and moving forward in a positive way.

3. Finding Joy and Coexisting with Sadness:

Divorce is accompanied by a mix of emotions, ranging from sadness and grief to joy and excitement for the future. Molly shares that it is okay to experience both sadness and joy simultaneously. She encourages individuals to allow themselves to feel these emotions fully and to let them flow naturally. By acknowledging and embracing these emotions, one can find moments of joy even in the midst of difficult times. Molly believes that joy and sadness can coexist, and it is through this acceptance that we can build a life that we love.

4. Building Healthy Relationships and Blended Families:

Navigating divorce becomes even more complex when children are involved. Molly provides valuable insights into co-parenting and blended families. She emphasizes the importance of creating an environment where children do not have to choose between their parents or feel pressured to take sides. Open communication, mutual respect, and creating a supportive network can foster healthy relationships within blended families. Molly's own experience demonstrates that blended families can be successful when both parents prioritize the well-being of the children and work together for their happiness.

5. Embracing a New Beginning:

Divorce marks the end of one chapter and the beginning of another. It is an opportunity for personal growth, self-reflection, and the chance to redefine one's life. Molly's story is a testament to the fact that divorce can lead to a new and fulfilling relationship. By learning from past experiences, recognizing personal strengths and weaknesses, and embracing self-awareness, individuals can create a solid foundation for a healthy and happy future.

Divorce is undoubtedly a challenging and painful experience, but it also presents an opportunity for self-empowerment and personal growth. Molly Rubesh shares her own journey through divorce, highlighting the importance of finding joy amidst the sadness and embracing self-discovery. By seeking professional support, building healthy relationships, and focusing on personal growth, individuals can navigate divorce and create a bright and authentic life post-divorce. Remember, happiness happens when we choose to embrace our true selves and find joy in the journey.

In the episode, we get into:

  • [2:31] What does happiness mean to Molly

  • [3:22] Why it’s so hard to find happiness within amidst divorce

  • [6:24] Processing emotions even when they are very hard to feel

  • [7:45] Molly's divorce journey

  • [11:53] Not getting stuck in anger

  • [12:59] The impact divorce has on kids

  • [19:51] Some of the biggest gifts of divorce

  • [23:07] Her relationship with her step kids

  • [25:48] Advice for someone on the fence about if divorce is their next right step

  • [27:52] One way to create a bit more happiness every day

About Molly Rubesh

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Molly Rubesh is a wife, blended mom of four, life coach, and author of the children's book "Is Heaven Farther Than the North Pole?"  After 20 years in the pharmaceutical and medical device industry, Molly left the corporate world to pursue a career where she could find more meaning in helping others. 

Molly has had her fair share of adversity, starting with a divorce, which ended her 11-year marriage in 2017. After Molly met her now husband, his ex-wife died, leaving them to love and raise her two stepsons through the grief of their biological mother. Just as things settled down, Molly's dad died in 2021. This journey has given Molly the perspective she has today: that joy and sadness can coexist. Molly is sure that with support, we can find joy in the hard times and build a life we love. Molly encourages women to step into their fullest authenticity by going after what they want in this life.

 
 
 
 

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