218: The 12 Questions for Deeper Love with Topaz Adizes
Why do our relationships only reach a certain depth? Why can we only achieve a certain level of conversation or emotional awareness within these relationships? How can we dig deeper to establish fulfilling relationships? In this episode of the Happiness Happens podcast, Topaz Adizes, an Emmy award-winning writer, director, and experienced design architect joins me for a conversation on the power of human connection.
Topaz's work boasts a revered collection of accolades, including selections to prestigious platforms such as Cannes, Sundance, IDFA, and South by Southwest. His productions have seen features in prominent outlets such as the New Yorker Magazine, Vanity Fair, and the New York Times, earning him an Emmy for New Approaches to Documentary and two World Press Photo Awards for Immersive Storytelling and Interactive Documentary.
Topaz is the founder and executive director of the experiential design studio, The Skin Deep. This unique venture uses its digital channels to provide what Topaz refers to as "digital doses of humanity." Utilizing methodologies from card games to conducting face-to-face interactions, the project offers a distinctive way for people to approach communication and relationships.
In our discussion, Topaz touched on his new book, "The 12 Questions for Love," emphasizing the power of asking well-structured questions to facilitate a deeper understanding of each other within a relationship. According to him, the two most powerful questions from his book include, "what pain in me do you wish you could heal?" and "what experience do you wish we never had?".
In the face of the common habit of seeking answers, Topaz advises his readers and listeners to instead focus on creating better questions. By focusing on the question, we set ourselves up for conversations that are more empowering, constructive, and provide a stronger sense of agency. Humans are incredible beings capable of adaptation, and as we continue to adapt to the changing ways of our society, we can reshape our outlook and feelings towards each other.
The vision of Topaz echoes throughout our conversation, reminding us of the undeniable power that well-crafted questions possess. In his captivating exploration of human interaction and in-depth conversations, he opened up mesmerizing insights. At the end of the day, as Topaz suggests, creating better questions might just be the key to unlocking deeper, more meaningful relationships.
In the episode, we get into:
3:04 what does happiness mean to Topaz
4:08 How to evaluate each moment and honor it for what it is at that time
5:25 The power of human connection and what we as a society might be missing
10:51 Can everyone access deep conversations?
12:37 What happens when we don’t have emotional safety in a relationship
20:31 Out of the 12 questions in his book, which is his favorite to ask
25:35 Younger generations and their relationship with connectedness
29:11 The one thing he wants readers to believe about themselves after reading his book
30:14 How to create a little more happiness in your day, every day, starting today
About Topaz Adizes
Topaz Adizes is an Emmy award-winning writer, director, and experienced design architect joins me for a conversation on the power of human connection.
Topaz's work boasts a revered collection of accolades, including selections to prestigious platforms such as Cannes, Sundance, IDFA, and South by Southwest. His productions have seen features in prominent outlets such as the New Yorker Magazine, Vanity Fair, and the New York Times, earning him an Emmy for New Approaches to Documentary and two World Press Photo Awards for Immersive Storytelling and Interactive Documentary.
Topaz is the founder and executive director of the experiential design studio, The Skin Deep. This unique venture uses its digital channels to provide what Topaz refers to as "digital doses of humanity." Utilizing methodologies from card games to conducting face-to-face interactions, the project offers a distinctive way for people to approach communication and relationships.
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